Humans are Born Selfish, not Compassionate myth

Are Humans Born Selfish, not Compassionate?

Are Humans Naturally Selfish? Are Humans Naturally Compassionate?

Humans are born both selfish and compassionate; we are hardwired to show compassion to our group and fear to those outside it. It’s genetic self-interest.[1][2] In other words, it’s a myth that humans are only naturally selfish (or vice-versa that we are only naturally compassionate.)

FACT: Everyone is hardwired with bias, and the way our brains process information only creates more bias as we grow. Luckily humans are social creatures and we have a natural desire to cooperate. We can be taught compassion and taught to understand and correct bias.

Babies are born both naturally selfish and compassionate, the rest is nurture

A baby doesn’t have to be taught to empathize with those who are in charge of caring for it (their in-group), and it doesn’t have to be taught to fear strangers (their out-group).[4] Most babies seem to react negatively to people who are strangers and positively to a known person or group of people.

Both compassion and fear are genetically hardwired to ensure the survival of the baby and it’s “in-group”. Beyond this, humans learn by nurture, not nature, how to extend their compassion to those outside their group, or likewise how to extend their “hate” to strangers outside their group.

Paul Bloom: The Psychology of Everything from bigThink. Skip ahead to about 2 1/2 minutes to get to the part that discusses the concepts on this page, or watch 50 minutes of mind-blowing smartness and nurturing.

FACT: Disgust is one of the most fundamental naturally hardwired emotions. It’s universal to all languages. Whether it’s different out-groups, yucky foods, or icky potential mates, disgust is an effective tool for survival (and an uncomfortable truth behind prejudice).

Is the Selfish Gene Theory True?

The selfish gene theory has truth to it, but it is ultimately misleading.[5]

We are born selfish in some ways, but ultimately it is selfishness on behalf of the species (not the individual). This could just as easily be described as being genetically “selfless” (the selfless gene). The fact is, humans are cooperative by nature, just like all life, and sometimes cooperation manifests as competition.

It’s probably more accurate to simply say, humans are complex and have both selfish and selfless traits. We are hardwired for cooperation and competition, we are hardwired to be selfish and compassionate, but all of this is simply in the interest of our genes. Beyond this, it’s simply a matter of nurture.

Do we teach others to have a small in-group, or do we teach them to extend compassion? There has historically been, unsurprisingly, two schools of thought. With that in mind, here is Richard Dawkins explaining his take on “the selfish gene”.

Richard Dawkins – The Selfish Gene explained. Dawkins is awesome, but it has some undertones which are ultimately misleading (similar to the “lone genius myth“).

 Are Humans Born Selfish, not Compassionate?


We come hardwired to be both “selfish” and “compassionate”, beyond this nurture plays a big role.

Don’t forget, if you are old enough to read this article, you are old enough to nurture yourself and define your “in-group” as humanity and you’re old enough to realize that the “out-group” can be in.


  1. The Compassionate Instinct“. Retrieved Jan 25, 2016.
  2. Are all humans inherently selfish?“. Retrieved Jan 25, 2016.
  3. The Compassionate Mind“. Retrieved Jan 25, 2016.
  4. Ingroups and outgroups“. Retrieved Jan 25, 2016.
  5. Emotions in the First Year“. Retrieved Jan 25, 2016.
  6. Selfish Gene Theory Of Evolution Called Fatally Flawed“. Retrieved Mar 17, 2016.

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Reba Supports this as a Fact.


Reddy KM Supports this as a Fact.

Humans are inherently selfish by birth, A baby does not allow another baby to take milk from mother. They are possessive of toys, dress……. If mother cuddles another baby, the first baby will not like it. So on………..

Ofentse Keith Mokwana Did not vote.

I really don’t know what causes me to think of myself, instead of others.
Sometimes I just think of others instead of myself. And it can really become confusing to what kind of a person I am – selfish or selfless. Judgement still remains in the face of both these concepts and they can only manifest themselves through circumstance(diverse). I don’t know, it doesn sound like a myth or a fact to me.. It’s a complex case like love and hate.

Karsten Did not vote.

Last sentence: It’s “you’re old enough to realize”, not “your old enough to realize”.